Valentine’s Day is often seen as a celebration of romantic love, but for singles, it can feel like a reminder of what’s missing. Whether you’re single or not, there are ways to make the most out of the holiday.
“Prioritizing self-love is key, especially in the context of relationships,” said Alyssa Castillo, a junior psychology and English major. "When you truly value yourself, you naturally set higher standards and cultivate a deeper sense of respect—both for yourself and your connections with others."
Castillo said that this doesn’t mean you have to ignore any feelings of loneliness that might surface on Valentine’s Day.
"If you’re not celebrating with a partner, it’s okay to acknowledge feelings of being left out," Castillo said. "For those in long-distance relationships: take the time to appreciate your partner in ways that don’t rely on physical presence—a heartfelt message or surprise flowers can make all the difference."
And for the singles, Castillo said embracing all forms of love is important.
“Celebrate the love you share with family, friends, and most importantly, yourself," she said.
Castillo shared a suggestion for how to spend the day in a way that’s both simple and meaningful: "One of my favorite ways to do—whether with a significant other, friends, younger sisters, or even solo—is treating myself to brunch."
Castillo said that she believes there’s nothing wrong with being single—especially in your twenties.
"This stage of life is a pivotal time for self-discovery," she said. "Being single gives you the freedom to explore your passions, strengthen your friendships, and deepen your bonds with family.”
Mike Zades, a junior finance major, said his advice is to stay single because it allows you to focus and work on yourself.
“Just be patient and let the one person find you,” Zades said.
Avery Diakhate, a sophomore criminal justice major, said to approach Valentine’s Day with a laid-back attitude and to trust that the right experiences, relationships, or love will find their way in time.
“Take it easy, and it’ll come to you,” Diakhate said.
On a day often surrounded by romantic expectations, Castillo emphasizes the importance of self-love: "Valentine’s Day is the perfect reminder that love isn’t just about romance—it’s also about the confidence and fulfillment that come from being comfortable in your own skin."
If you’re feeling the weight of being single on Valentine’s Day, Castillo said that she recommends surrounding yourself with people who lift you.
"While self-love is essential, so is spending time with those who encourage you to be your best self," Castillo said. "Love exists in many forms and sharing it—romantic or not—makes you just as much a part of the Valentine’s Day celebration."
Paul Gustafson, a junior marketing major, advocates for breaking typical romantic expressions.
"If you have a girlfriend, don't go out with her on Valentine's Day, go to a Heat game in Philly instead," Gustafson said.
Italia Wiley is a writer for The Setonian’s Campus Life section. She can be reached at italia.wiley@student.shu.edu.
